In order to be successful in anything in life – anything – you first have to make the conscious decision that you are not going to coast through life on autopilot. You have to decide that you are in charge of your destiny, recognizing that God gave you the gift of being able to choose.
It’s very convenient and very easy for us to shift into the mode of learned helplessness – that everything is out of our control. It often disguises itself in piety – God is in control of everything – sounds very righteous but in reality can simply be a painless way of avoiding having to make difficult choices. If I have no control, and nothing is up to me, then even if I fail, it’s not really me failing because I had no choice, it was beyond my control.
And yet, we know – if we really think about it – that we were given the gift of free will for a reason. God created us in order to have a relationship with us. A relationship requires both parties choosing to love. If we had no choice but to obey, that would not be love. Which is why God gave Adam and eve the option of disobedience in the garden of Eden, and why he gives you the option of what you are going to do every day. Created in the image of God, you are powerful, not powerless. You have the ability to create reality – to create a life – through your words and also through your thoughts.
In the secular world, there is a concept called the law of attraction. And a lot of religious people poo-poo the idea that what you think of – what you focus on you get more of. But the bible gave us this concept long before the secular world gave it a name.
It says in Mishlei – Proverbs 23:7 – “as a man thinks in his heart so is he”