Is that thunder? I think that might be thunder. Or is it an explosion? Or is it just the kids upstairs playing? People who have never lived in a war zone, under the threat of missiles impacting their homes, have no idea what it is like to live in a constant state of hyper-awareness. Is that the beginning of a siren? Do I need to run to the safe room? Oh, no, it’s a whiny motorcycle. Is that Arab in my grocery store carrying a knife? Or is she a person I can trust? Is that Palestinian car slowly pulling up beside me trying to pass, or am I about to be shot at? Are those Arab kids on the side of the road just hanging out, or am I about to have a Molotov cocktail thrown at my car?
My phone starts buzzing. A lot. There’s another rocket barrage to the center of the country. And I wonder, “how?” Considering how much we’ve destroyed in Gaza, and how little fuel and other supplies they’ve got, it’s hard to believe that Hamas still has the ability to shoot any rockets at all. And while the amount of rockets has gone significantly down, only about 50 rockets a day instead of hundreds, you have to wonder – are they being resupplied? Snuck in on the aid trucks? Clearly, we understand what their priority is. It’s not the sick and injured in their hospitals, it’s not the women and children they are using as human shields, it’s not feeding the people of Gaza. They have one goal and one goal only – to destroy Israel, and they will continue doing it until they breathe their last breath.
Hospitals. One of the things on my mind this week is the hospitals. A couple of days ago it was announced that despite what the news may be reporting, the IDF had NOT attacked any hospitals in Gaza. And although they are preparing for operations in and around some of the hospitals in Gaza, every effort is being made to make sure to get patients out of the way before any fighting takes place. This is one of the reasons this ground incursion is taking so long. We make sure that we avoid as many civilian deaths as possible.
News has just come out that the IDF has killed a Hamas commander who had held approximately 1000 Gazans hostage at one of the hospitals. That’s right. Even those who can leave are being prevented from doing so by…Hamas. Surprise, surprise. Hamas WANTS civilians killed – lots of them. Why? Because their warfare tactics aren’t only about murdering Jews, they really do believe in the Nazi principles. One of the things that the Nazis did was to dehumanize the Jews. It’s only when you dehumanize a population that you can get others to support their destruction. After all, no one complains about exterminating cockroaches – they aren’t people. So, by killing their own people and then claiming it was Israel who did it, they can make us monsters in the eyes of the rest of the world and get people to believe that our destruction is somehow justified. It’s so backward, that it leaves me dumbfounded.
Something else that leaves me dumbfounded is the amount of educated, good-hearted people who really don’t have any clue about the nuances of this situation and blindly accept what they are being told without actually researching the facts for themselves. That part I can partially understand because I understand that it’s human nature to rely on others and trust that the information you are getting is truth. This falls under the motivational triad – three things that all sentient beings are motivated by: the pursuit of pleasure, the avoidance of pain, and the conservation of energy. That last one, the conservation of energy, is why people just accept what they are told as truth. It takes too much energy to do your own research – unless you are highly motivated to do so. For me, the fact that my very existence is threatened by this information, motivates me to put out the energy to research the facts. Cooking, on the other hand, not so much.
This week, someone very close to me in the US posted a meme that included a heart-shaped Palestinian flag. This person meant well. The point of the post was actually that everyone deserves human rights, and you can’t say you are for human rights and then deny the rights of one group. It’s true. But what most people fail to realize is that across the board, whether we are talking about college campuses, the Democratic party, gay pride events, or the Red Cross, the one group whose human rights are consistently ignored and/or denied, is the Jews. Had the meme had a flag of Israel and a flag of Palestine, it wouldn’t have triggered the response in me that it did. But when I saw it in my feed, it felt like a stab in the back and a slap in the face. All at once I was both deeply hurt and nail-spitting angry. This person, who is very close to me and very good-hearted didn’t understand that posting this meme right now was tantamount to supporting those who are shouting “from the river to the sea.” This person didn’t even realize that that chant literally means that they are calling for the complete annihilation of the Jewish people, and specifically, Israel. I live between the river and the sea.
Back to the thunder. In Israel, it basically only thunders in Autumn. That’s because we really only have two seasons in Israel – the hot and dry season, and the cold and wet season. This year we’ve actually had an unusually long Autumn, with cool temperatures at night and warm temperatures during the day – not hot, not cold. But now they are predicting rain, and the temperatures are headed down. And my son is embedded in an artillery unit up north. He’s not at a base, he’s out in the elements, sleeping in a sleeping bag, in makeshift tents. In the mud. And cold. He may be grown and married, but he’s still my baby.
I think I’ve mentioned this before, but part of the reason I’m writing less often is that I’m actually finding it easier to concentrate on work. Even with my baby up north in the mud. The war is, unfortunately, beginning to feel more routine. War should never feel routine. Even though we are in relative physical safety where we live, there are still 240 Israelis being held hostage by terrorists, and people are still dying. War should never feel routine.
Today I watched a recorded interview with Elyon Levy, the spokesman for the state of Israel. He was being interviewed by a British “journalist” who kept asking really stupid questions. “But what about the Palestinian children?” And every time, to every stupid question, Elyon didn’t miss a beat, explaining that none of this would be happening had Hamas not done what they did. Gazans would be suffering had Hamas not committed its brutal massacre on October 7th.
Stupid questions. Stupid people on autopilot blindly swallowing whatever they’ve been told. Stupid people regurgitating untrue and ridiculous soundbites they’ve picked up from the news or the internet. I’ve always been a teacher, I come by it naturally, and so when I meet people who are clearly uneducated in the topic they are talking about, I feel the need to educate them. But I don’t really have the energy to deal with all the ignorance floating around the internet these days, so I’ve decided to put this drive to educate into something that won’t completely pull me in and sap all my energy. I call them infomemes. They aren’t infographics because there are no cute little pictures. Just a word, the definition, and a coherent explanation – the facts – as to why the word is being used incorrectly when referring to Israel. So far I’ve done one on genocide, apartheid, and ethnic cleansing.
When I started my online magazine 3 years ago, one of the things I had to explain over and over again is that I firmly believe a person has no right to have an opinion on something they know nothing about. So people either need to shut up or get educated.
It’s never been easy to be a Jew, but nowadays, having to constantly justify my existence, and not “only” to justify my existence, but to justify it against a sea of false information that is being accepted as truth when it’s not, is Sisyphean, an exercise in futility and utterly exhausting.
Written by Penina Taylor
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It’s been a full month since the massacre. The country is in mourning. Yesterday marked the end of “shloshim,” the traditional 30 days of mourning that a family observes after the death of a loved one. Only this time, it isn’t only those who have lost an immediate relative who have been morning for 30 days, it’s been the entire country. Because, when you attack our people, you attack every last one of us.
No, really. I mean it. This piece will trigger you if you are even 10% human.
I haven’t been writing much this week, which is a good sign, I guess. It means that for those of us who don’t live near the front lines, life is slowly returning to some version of normal. Many businesses are still open shortened hours because of a lack of manpower, and there’s still the business of our community asking for volunteers – physical and financial resources – to help soldiers, soldier’s families, displaced families, massacre victims, etc. But the kids are in school, most of us are working (at least those of us fortunate enough to be able to) and life goes on.
We are home again. Our visit to the Kinneret was odd.
It was quieter up there. The sounds of action to the north were absorbed by the mountains that surround the sea. Every so often you could hear muffled sounds, but not much at all. Most of the sounds at the resort were the sounds of children playing.
It never ceases to amaze me how resilient children are. Children live in the moment. They weren’t home, but they made “here” their home. They ran, swam, and rode scooters. They played. Even in the midst of war, even while evacuated from their homes and squashed into one room for the whole family, children play. It’s what they do.
It’s shabbat morning. The resort, which is filled to capacity with evacuees from the North, doesn’t appear to have organized a morning prayer service. My husband trots off to the designated “synagogue” to go see if there is anyone praying there. He decided that even if there isn’t an actual service, that he would do his Shabbat morning prayers there, as there is a concept in Judaism that certain places have an inherent holiness to them, and a place where there is a Torah scroll, or where people have regularly had prayer services, is one of those inherently holy places. Besides, as lovely as our bungalow is, it’s very small and I’d be in his way, and probably a distraction. While he’s at the synagogue, I grab a cup of cold tea and go sit at the table in front of the bungalow to meditate. I’d like to call it prayer, but most of the time it’s more of a one-sided conversation. We are really very fortunate as our bungalow faces the water, so sitting there is definitely a spiritual experience. As I sat there, admiring the beauty and the deceptive peacefulness of the lake, I start my conversation with the Creator of it all. “Why, oh why, did You create humanity with the capability of such evil?”
It’s finally Friday. Today is the day that we are going up to the Kineret for our weekend getaway. But before we do that, we are going out for our usual Friday morning breakfast. Only today, we have a small guest with us. Last night our DIL mentioned that with her husband away, she hasn’t really been able to give the apartment a good cleaning and was wondering if we would be willing to take one of the kids so she can try to get some work done in the house. We agree to take her middle son – he just turned 7 – to breakfast and shopping with us this morning.
I’m still reeling from the things I read yesterday evening. Sleep last night was intermittent and fitful. I suppose I should be grateful for the fact that I almost never remember my dreams. Although, I do remember waking up many times during the night. It wasn’t anything specific, I just think that at this point my nervous system is so overwhelmed by the constant anxiety that it doesn’t seem to know how to relax anymore.
It’s Wednesday morning. Shopping day. This is the third shopping day since the war began. Our local supermarket – a large grocery store and part of a country-wide chain, serves the region where I live. This consists of approximately 80,000 – 100,000 Jews, in about 20 communities. I have no idea how many Arabs live in the area, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s a similar number.
Except for the rare terrorist attack, Jews and Arabs in our area interact and live side-by-side not only without incident but without hatred. No, in general, we don’t socialize with each other, but we ride the bus, go grocery shopping, clothes shopping, eat out, see movies, and do all those public things in the same places, giving an occasional smile or friendly hello and being polite. In fact, in general, in my community, I’ve observed that Arabs and Jews interact more politely than many of the people in New York. So much for apartheid.
When I was a child I remember milk cartons sometimes being printed with the picture of a missing child. The idea being that if enough people saw the picture, maybe someone would remember their face and recognize them if they see them somewhere and help in recovering the child.
This week Israel’s main milk producer, Tnuva, did something similar, with the pictures of the 212 known hostages. It says on the box, “Kidnapped” (on the top) and underneath the pictures it says, “kidnapped since Sat, Oct 7th” “last seen in Western Negev” and 1-BRING-THEM-HOME. While posting their faces on the carton may not make them come home any quicker by being recognized, it’s a reminder that there are real people – A LOT of real people – suffering, being held hostage. More than 20 of them are children, some babies. Many of them are elderly, not capable of enduring the same hardships a younger adult can…
I’ve gotten behind again on my journaling. When a wound is fresh, when the anger is sharp, it’s easy to express yourself. The burning inside acts as a propellant for the words to come out. But as time goes on the fire gives way to hot coals and what remains where the burning used to be is exhaustion. I am so tired on so many levels, sometimes I feel like I have to push the words out like trying to roll a boulder uphill.
A new week has begun.
Before the war began, and before the Fall holidays, my daughter and I had the custom of spending an hour together every Sunday morning to have coffee and chat. We’ve been doing it for years. Over the holidays, we paused our weekly coffee date because the kids were all home and it was just too difficult for her to get out. The war extended that hiatus. But today we are finally getting together for coffee. I really treasure this time together, and in many ways I feel like my daughter is my best friend.
Buzz buzz buzz buzz buzz
I had shut off do not disturb mode from my phone so that if the security needed to send emergency instructions, I would get the call. I still haven’t figured out how to do the configurations correctly so that the things I want to come through will and the things I don’t want to come through won’t. Maybe by the time the war is over I’ll have it all figured out.
It’s 3am and the buzzing of a rocket alert wakes me up. Boom. I hear the booms. In the end it turns out that the rockets were over on the coast, near Gaza. I did a little research and according to what I found, I shouldn’t be able to hear the booms all the way over here, but I do. My husband thinks my research was faulty. It’s very possible. But I heard the booms and then drifted back off to sleep.
Hard to believe that this has now been going on for two weeks. It’s Friday, and time for us to get ready for shabbat.
I look over to the shelf where I light my shabbat candles. The seven-day candle I lit on Wednesday is still burning and I am reminded that no, it’s not over yet. We still have no knowledge about the condition of our hostages, the red cross has made no effort to see them.
When I woke up this morning and checked my phone, I was shocked to find that there hadn’t been any rockets fired from Gaza since 10:00 last night. In fact, the first alarm today wasn’t until after noon. I’m guessing that we must have done a reasonably good job at destroying their terror infrastructure. But maybe I spoke too soon. Buzz buzz buzz buzz buzz…
Boom. That was close. But we didn’t get any sirens.
Wednesday morning, shopping day. This week venturing out to go grocery shopping at our local supermarket wasn’t as scary as the previous week. It never ceases to amaze me how quickly a frightening situation can become “normal” given enough time. Wow, just saying that to myself is a different kind of frightening. No one should have to get used to rockets going boom overhead, or the threat of violence in the streets. No one should have to get used to not knowing if food they need for their children will be available when they get to the store. No one. And while I’m writing this I’m thinking about the people who live in Gaza…
I wake up feeling more focused today, I think it’s going to be another productive day. I’ve fallen behind on my blog posts, and I’m getting messages from people who say they really appreciate them, so I should keep writing. Well, when you put it that way…
It’s Tuesday. My SIL went back to base on Sunday morning. I know it’s only been a few days, and he’s working in a logistics unit now – which can be stressful at times, for sure, but he’s not in the same kind of stressful situation he was last week. I’m relieved about that, but still feeling like I want him to know how much he is loved and how much we care about him.
I’m finally sleeping better. I guess in some ways I’ve grown a little numb to the buzzing of my phone and the horrors of last Shabbat have begun to get duller around the edges – if that’s a thing. It appears that the massacre was so horrific that it’s caused global leaders’ humanity to overtake their normal apathy and even bias against Israel, meaning that we are getting support (or at least not being condemned) in ways that Israel has never before experienced. So I guess I’m not feeling the threat of complete annihilation the way I was last week, and that’s relieved some of my anxiety. Last week I was paralyzed, this week I’m just very (very) distracted.
After a pretty restful shabbat, for which I am very grateful, I wake up ready to start the week. Or so I think. In Israel the weekend is Friday and Saturday (Shabbat) instead of Saturday and Sunday, so Sunday is the first day of the work-week. One of the few things I actually do miss from the US is having Sunday off. Somehow, even when I had to work on Fridays, I managed to get ready for Shabbat and then I had Sunday off. It’s good to have a day between Shabbat and the work-week. In Israel, it’s different. Friday, which should be like Sunday, isn’t really a day off if you are religious because there’s always the looming deadline of sunset when everything has to be ready for Shabbat. In spite of my best efforts to start the week off being productive, there’s a million other things vying for my attention…
Friday night. Shabbat. Shortly before setting my phone up for the special shabbat-during-war mode, I noticed that people were suggesting lighting an extra two candles for the women who were in captivity or serving on the front lines, who wouldn’t be able to light candles for themselves. I decided not only to do that but to also light a yahrzeit candle.
I wake up and check my phone. No sirens since 1am. That might be a record since the war began.
Normally, on Friday morning, my husband and I go out for breakfast. Friday is a day off in Israel, and being without small children at home, this is something we can do. It’s our sacred time. We’ve always advised married couples, young and old, that they must make time for each other. Date night – once a week or at least once a month is a necessity, not a luxury. Being a little on the older side, I find the idea of going out in the evening exhausting, just the thought of it. So we decided that instead of date night, we’d have date breakfast. Sometimes we have friends join us, sometimes we have family join us – like last week. It was my birthday on the secular calendar, so all the kids in the area (not our one set of kids who live in the center of the country, because it’s just too hard). It seems like months ago, not a week.
I’m still having issues with sleeping, but I managed to get almost 6 hours last night. That’s not bad, honestly.
First thing I do is check my phone. Is everyone ok? And then the news sites. And then I make a mistake that I make over and over again – I check social media.
On my Instagram feed there’s a famous speaker and author that I really respect speaking out about what’s happened here. Amazing. I knew this guy was great. But then I make the real mistake. I look at the comments. NEVER ever look at the comments. I know this. I know there’s a lot of awful people out there.
Every Wednesday morning my husband and I go grocery shopping early, so we can avoid the crowds, get in and out quickly and get back home in time to start our work day. I wasn’t sure we’d be able to go shopping this morning. But we are fortunate, our local supermarket is open and relatively well stocked, all things considered.
What was that? I mean, obviously it was some sort of aircraft, but it was really REALLY loud. At 3:15 in the morning, I had only had a few hours sleep, but the jet passing overhead sounded like it was close enough to scrape our apartment building. Ok, well, maybe if I don’t think too much I can get back to sleep. After all, I haven’t actually had a good night’s sleep in several days now.
I closed my eyes and had barely drifted off to that place that feels so good when I was awakened again by a very loud jet. This one wasn’t as close as the first one, but super loud. Enough louder than the air traffic we’ve been hearing 24/7 for the past 3 days that it woke me up. I squinted to check the time, without my glasses on, and really still ¾ asleep, that was not an easy task…3:18. Wait…what? Only three minutes since the last one? I must be mistaken.
I managed to get a few hour’s sleep. Not enough to function well, though. I’ve got to get more work done or this month is going to be hard in more ways than one. I check Facebook again to see if I can mark myself safe in the crisis – this will help lower the amount of people asking me if we are okay. I appreciate the concern, and it’s heartening knowing that so many people care about my welfare, but it’s hard to answer everyone. Facebook still hasn’t listed the war as an option and I am livid. There are ways of doing this that don’t have to be about “taking sides”, but ignoring the situation is abominable. Nope, still no option.
Drawn like a moth to light, I cannot put down my phone. I cannot shut down my computer. What’s the latest count? Who has been found? The booms continue, although much more distant now. The buzz buzz buzz buzz buzz of my phone has a few more minutes between each set. But it’s 1:30 am and I have to work in the morning. So reluctantly I head to bed. Sleep is fitful, but I’m exhausted.
I get up, get dressed, as usual. I get my coffee and sit down to work. One website…just one…no, I need to work. I try to work. But websites and LinkedIn profiles seem so trivial at the moment. I am so distracted.
It’s Saturday morning, Shabbat, but also the last day of the festival of Sukkot in Israel, called Shemini Atzeret and also Simchat Torah. This is the day we celebrate the greatest gift God gave to the Jewish people (and the world, really). I’m laying in bed and my phone begins to buzz – buzz, buzz, buzz, buzz, buzz, buzz.